"..... "How do I be a caring uplifter without getting bogged down in the energy of someone else?" And so, here is a phrase that we think that would be good for you to roll around in your mind on a pretty regular basis: "I will mind my own business." Because you cannot vibrate for another. And the thing that causes the most discord in teachers' energy is wanting something for someone else and not having the ability to shift the energy of the other - but holding the other as their point of desire. So when you really really want something to be better for your daughter, or better for your mother, or better for a friend - better for somebody you care very much about, and you converse with them often enough that they've activated their desire within you - but you can't ALLOW for them. Though the clarity of your example you can allow for YOU, but you can't allow for them. So, now you've got yourself in this trap where you want something that you cannot do anything about. And so, we say to you, if you can't do anything about it - and that falls with everybody - that means everybody - if you can't do anything about it then it truly is none of your business. You see. If you CAN do something about it, then it's your business. So, you can feel better about the way your friend feels, but you can't do something about your friend feeling better. You can do something about how *you* feel about how she feels, but you can't do anything about *she* feels. When you make it your job to change the way someone feels, oh - you get so out of balance. Because you begin summoning on their behalf - it falls into the category of answering questions that aren't being asked. It's like pushing a noodle and frustration begins to build within you. And so, what we would encourage you to do - and this is - what you've said to us here today speaks it all - you feel very good when you fixate on something you can do something about. In other words, if you're not really busy doing something that you can do something about, people will suck you in to all of their drama and all of their trauma. In other words, if you're not busy, your phone will start ringing with things that will make you - will keep you very busy because you want to be busy. All of us need an active calling. And if you have not identified goals of your own, you will find yourself trying to fulfill goals of others. And you cannot do it because you cannot vibrate for them, you see. That's big. That's the biggest thing that you will ever hear from us relative to interpersonal relationships. You have to be selfish enough to mind your own business. So when someone says, "You justdon't care. You just don't care - that's why you're not getting involved with this - that's why your eyes are glazing over when I'm giving you the nitty gritty details of it." In response to that you say "It isn't that I do not care, it is thatI can't do anything about it. And it tears me apart. You activate this very powerful desire within me on your behalf and I can't change the way you feel. I can't change your point of attraction. And I'm tortured in this process." You see. "And so out of self survival - and call it selfishness if you want - I have decided to turn my attention toward things that I CAN do something about." And there are others that will say "Well that's very selfish." And we say, it must be, because you were not given the vibratory range to vibrate for others. You cannot attract health to others, you cannot attract wealth to others, you cannot attract relationships to others. You can't stop their problems. You can just live the example of being in alignment and then help them to understand how you do it."

Abraham